Elevate: Becoming Who You Truly Are - Healing

In this episode, Joy creates a space where authenticity is welcomed, where she reminds us that self-witnessing is one of the most powerful tools for navigating life and honouring everything that has brought us to this moment of awareness.

We are also encouraged to make room for grief, rage, sadness, disappointment, and longing. We are shown to view these not as problems to fix, but as energies to understand and move through. 

A central theme for the episode is the familiar triangle of survival roles: perpetrator, victim, and rescuer. Rather than repeating these patterns, you’re invited to rise above them and integrate their lessons from a higher perspective.

Complete Healing harnesses the healing power within, releasing the signals of trauma and accumulated pain from your family history and personal journey.

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What You’ll Learn

• Why self-witnessing is essential for healing and growth
• How to allow difficult emotions without being consumed by them
• What old coping patterns may still be shaping your reactions
• How grounding helps you stay open and steady
• The dynamics of the perpetrator, victim, and rescuer triangle
• How to rise beyond blame and shame into compassion
• What it means to embody your truest self

Key Themes

Healing, self-awareness, emotional release, compassion, inner witness, transformation, empowerment, clarity, authenticity

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Transcript

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This is Soul Awakenings with Joy Truscott, the show that is your safe space. Life has so many transitions, and this is where we walk through those together with more ease, grace, and flow.

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All the moments that we are, it's incredible when you can be in a space and just allow for all your emotions and all the emotions that are going around and be in your authenticity with that. It really does help us to be able to be in that space because not all of us have great experiences with everybody and everything. And it's wonderful if we can just come into a space where we can let that be the story, but also be this story that's there, witnessing it and holding it. I think that is a key to being able to be in the world right now for us, is to be able to witness ourselves in our journey and then also honor what it is that has brought us to this point of awareness of ourselves as the witness in this life journey. This is such a gift for us. I wonder if we can unwrap a little bit of those feelings and thoughts as we connect today. We should all be able to grieve openly. Isn't that the truth? To grieve and to rage. Because within the grieving, we have so much rage, disappointment, sadness that comes through as well. None of our lives and our connections are just lovely lollipops. They're just not. They're challenging and they're difficult, but do they shake us up and get our attention? So if we can grieve and feel and ache and yearn every nuance, everything that has been this life journey, this is going to help us to understand why it is like it is so that we can elevate, so that we can become who we truly are. And that's what we're talking about today. Becoming who we truly, truly are. We wrap our arms around each other, and I wrap my arms around you. And I thank you for holding each other, for holding the space week after week, and we just keep doing that so that we can uplift our energy as a collective. It's a beautiful time for us to be doing this work and how wonderful it is that we can find each other to do this work. Please know that it's not just an idle bit of time that you're spending here with me. There is something that is shifting, and the more of us that are connecting into it and asking ourselves, who am I? Who am I as my truest being, my authentic being? When we start to ask that, we are moving beyond just the coping mechanism, the default settings and the default systems that we've created to manage and cope. If we are allowing ourselves to move beyond a space or a container that has contained us, if we're allowing ourselves to move into something else, then we are actually shifting ourselves into the something else. How wonderful that is if we were to really think about it and see it from slightly above. So we're going to play with that today. We're going to hold the space together. Let's bring our energy in. We open our collective heart, we send our loving vibrations to each other. Just bring it in, and we imagine that this is the container in which we will create something incredible. So if we can now take a deep breath in. Feel yourself connecting into this time and space. Anchor your energy to where you are in the deepest gratitude that there is something that we can connect to right now that is holding us and helping us to feel stable and connected. And whatever that is for you, connect into that with a sense of deep relief and also release. So soften your tummy, drop your shoulders, smooth the skin on your beautiful face, feel the connection to where you are, and the gratitude that you are this being that can be here in a time and space, and adjust yourself even in these small little ways. And when we adjust ourselves with a thought, an activation happens in that thought. Breathe in and drop your shoulders, soften your tummy, feel it, feel how you have changed the environment around your body right now, just by making the smallest of tweaks, and then notice that the space around you has not shifted at all, it is still holding you. Can we come to the point now in this life journey where we agree that the journey we are in and the place and the space that is holding us is holding us. If we can be aware of ourselves in the time, space reality, then we're truly paying attention. When we make these little adjustments into our mind and our body, we are realigning into something else beyond the tight, conforming, compressing energy that drop your shoulders, smooth the skin on your beautiful face, soften your tummy. Now you hear in this space, let's see how long you can hold that without becoming a little tense or tight again. And when you do, ask your being to notice you doing that so that you can bring it to your awareness. We are training ourselves to become more and more attuned to our being, becoming more and more aware of ourselves as beings in time and space. Not just here managing and coping and hoping, my least favorite words, throw them in the dustbin. But as a being that is aware and conscious, noticing. It is in this noticing of who we are that we begin to recognize and realign to who we truly are. What is the part of you that is witnessing you? What is the part of you that's noticing that right now your tummy might be coming a little more tense and tight again? What is the part of you that's listening to the sounds around you and bringing in the information that is outside of you into this awareness? Is that just your mind and body, your senses and perceptions? Or is there another part of you that is understanding it, organizing it, categorizing it? This I like that I don't like. Good, bad, high, low, whatever it is. There are so many things happening even in this moment of absolute quietness and stillness. Your being is very attentive. When we be still, we open our attention, open our awareness, something magnificent happens. We go beyond just the self in the container. We start to connect in with something way greater, the divine. Feel the breath of God coming into you right now. And then breathe out and just relax your whole body. Feel the space, this connection. Truly, you didn't have to do anything to receive that except agree and decide how much or how little you would welcome in and how much you would release and when. There is a part of you that is organizing all of these elements that are around you that is helping you to interpret and understand yourself, to bring in, to release, to open, to let go. This part of you is asking you all the time to be interacting in your life. Not just to be a solid lump. We're all so funny, and the way we go, we must be grounded and I must be connected. I think that there is a lot to being grounded and connected who helps us to feel stable, but it can also help us to feel very locked in, very safe and contained. One of the ways that they help to soothe dogs that are terrified of thunder and lightning is you put a big, snuggly, heavy blanket around them. And even those weighted blankets for children in high distress who are battling to self-regulate, sometimes that heaviness on them helps them to perceive themselves in a space that is holding them because their energy is just too much everywhere. They're too distracted. The animals that are listening to the thunder and the lightning are just shivering and quivering, and their whole body's gone into a reactive state. Placing ourselves in the awareness of ourself in this time and space is wonderful. But don't be locking yourself in, my sweeties. Stay open and clear. Stay clear and connected. Expand your awareness while your body holds yourself safe and loved, breathing and beating your heart, systems are functioning, all of this is happening. So imagine this now. That we have been dancing around on a platform. And if we were to just say there's a shape on this ground that we've been playing in, and I'm going to show you with my hands, and we imagine it like a triangle. We imagine that we got these three points in this triangle, and we could say that all the shifting and all the movement upon this great triangle, the stage of our great production, that we step into any of these three points and positions upon the stage. Are we up front? Are we right there just talking to the audience, being fabulous? Or are we a little way back, a little bit on the sides and the wings and the curtains and the shadows? Where are we on this great stage of our production? Where are we now? What position do you hold? And if you could imagine that all the games that we've been playing to now have been in this container, this triangle, as if it was etched out on the ground beneath us. And we have been hopping back and forth to each point, readjusting ourselves, our position, depending on what it is that's coming in, how we're feeling and understanding this life and what's coming into us. And then we ask ourselves, so what are those positions? If we had to give them names, we could give them the very simple categories of right at the one point, the perpetrator, the one who has is in power and holding it, assuming that that is a strong person, a strong position. That's maybe the one point. Maybe there have been times in your life when you felt strong and assertive, confident, and you've claimed your space and you've gone out and you've done stuff and you've activated your energy, you've bossed people around, you've taken control. Fabulous you. I bet you've played a little bit of those roles. Then, my love, you might just shift and you might go to one of the other points of the triangle. We might just say this one is the victim. And so all the times in our lives where we played the victim, where we felt betrayed, where there's been deceit and lies, manipulation, and all the games that humanity has played, all the traumas, all the hardship, the suffering, all of that places us in a position of ourselves as victims to this life. We play that a lot. That one we love very much because it's very familiar. It's familiar because that is what has been playing out for us at such a great pace and so much content through eons of time. Humanity has been in its great struggle just to survive. It has been an immense struggle just to survive. So of course we all have that connection. And then the third triangle, the placement of ourselves, might be that of the rescuer, the one who wants to rescue everybody, rescue this one and that one, and save and help and serve, be this wonderful one that's always doing this kindness for everyone because we've been told we must serve and we must be kind and we must be all these things. But while we do that, if it's out of balance and if it's in this triangle, it is always out of balance. It is never in its purest form. It is in a performance, and we have all kinds of stories that are wrapped up in each one of these points of the triangle. We stay here and we play here. We've been doing that for eons of time. We justify our positions and our holding space based on our families and our history and all the games that we've been playing to this point. We might feel very good about being the strong perpetrator, the one point that we came into. We might feel like I know now what I want and what I'll never do again, and I'm strong, and I'm gonna just boss everybody around and tell them how they better behave and get in alignment and sort themselves out. We could play that one and we could feel very good about it because it makes us feel strong. But when it makes us feel strong at someone else's expense, where someone has had to be thrown down into a lower position to be held in some way, or to serve you, or to make you comfortable so you could stay there and keep feeling like you are the great, great holder. Those games go back and forth. It is an endless back and forth caught in this captive space of the story that we think this is life, and it never ends. It is so incredibly tedious. If you look at any point in your life, you will remember that you played in one of these, and you will know that you shifted back and forth between them, depending on how confident or how insecure you felt, or how beaten or broken you felt. You were always shifting inside of it. And so we stay there because this is familiar territory, and we know what the land looks like. We know how to react in a moment. Our systems have now created a default setting for that. This comes in, boom, I'm gonna react to that way. It's wonderful. So we get locked into a container, but it's time to go beyond that now. We've learned everything we need to learn from being in that closed triangle. There is nothing more that we need to know about being a victim, being the one in power, the perpetrator, and about being the rescuer. And there is no virtue in any of them. They make us feel good or bad in all the ways that they do, but there is nothing that is life-giving, life-sustaining inside of this game. It's just a safe container that is known to us. Now imagine, my lovelies, if you were to flatten down that triangle and make it three points on the great stage production of our life. And they were marked out with this tape, so you know where exactly where you are standing at any given time. And you know that there is nowhere else to go upon this stage, then how do we flip out of that? How do we go beyond that story? So now, my lovelies, take all the information that you've understood about being the one in power, powerful, strong, confident, clear. Take that information and pull it up as if you're pulling a line. Then take all the information that you've known about what it's been like to feel like a victim, to be held and suppressed and pushed aside, and what you know that you never want to do again, and pull that line up and bring it to the point that meets the line that is connecting to the perpetrator. Now come to the third point, and that is the rescuer, and all the ways that you felt that you were rescuing someone, or what it was like to be rescued, and what that felt like, and how you felt within yourself as a truth. Bring that line and bring it up. Now you've got all three points coming to a single point above. You've now made a pyramid. It is that point, my lovelies, that is the point of our expansion. We are there now. We're right at the point of our heightened awareness. There is nothing that humanity needs to know now about what it is to live and to survive and to sustain ourselves as a human. We must shift and go beyond. We must elevate, pull these points up, pull up all that we've gained and understood because we've lived and because we've been able to witness all the lives with all these stories inside of them. And who are we now? When we pull these to a single point of consciousness, what do we know that we're powerful, that we care, that we love so deeply, and that we would give with all our heart and all our soul? What do you know from every point of those three stagnant trapped positions about you in this life now? And what you would seek and create for those that you care and love, those that you adore? What do you know now as you go beyond? You elevate into a much higher perspective, and then we start again. We start saying, How do I do this? But could we just stop here and breathe and not have to create a structure that gives us some form of dependence or known, something that we can rely upon? Can't we just rely upon the structure that we've already developed? We know who we are as humanity, and we know that we are seekers of something else. Could we be here without creating anything else? Without having to create a story or drama or karma? Could we just be there as the one in great witness and great compassion and kindness for all the stories that have been and heal our souls? Let's be there now, my lovelies. Just bring your consciousness up. If you can imagine it whatever way you can see those markings etched upon the ground of which you've stood, your life, your story. And imagine that every single one has given you a fragment of incredible truth and knowing. We thank this body for being in all those places that have felt so tight and Hard, so oppressed. And we thank our awareness for knowing what it is that we seek and long for and what we will never do again. We couldn't know and take this next step until we knew all of this. The only thing that's stopping us is acknowledging it. Acknowledge the journey, the pain, the trauma, the sadness, the anger, the guilt, the shame, the blame, the bitterness. Own it, honor it, know it. It's okay. This is our human experience. We've had to feel it so deeply to know it so deeply. We thank every dear soul who's brought this awareness to us. I'm so sorry that it had to be so revolting for so many of you and for me and for all of us. I'm so sorry that it's been so hard, that it's knocked upon your awareness and crushed your soul sometimes. And I'm so sorry for your pain and your loss and your anger. So sorry for your rage. And I'm so sorry for all of those who had to play a part in that. In whatever way they did. Could we now just let all the stories of that container dwindle away? Just gently release. Because now we know, my lovelies, we know something. What do we know? Feel that awakening in your heart. We know something. It's a stirring in our soul, a rising of our consciousness, an elevation that we could feel as gentle little tingles within our heart, mind, and our soul. Where we align to the divine, come all the way up to the point right above. Here you stand right there in that. We get the point of it all. We understand what this life has been about because we are now in the position to see it and understand it. But we can do it now without dropping the energy into blame, shame, guilt, without feeling revolted about our humanity. We can start to just let all those stories drop, knowing that it was a grand stage production, stage for us to get to the next point, orchestrate it in the most clear and wonderful way. When we can see it from this elevated position, we have shifted beyond the structure into our absolute truth. We could do this now because we played the game in that great triangle of misery, because we were willing to be in it and immersed in it to the point that we could not see where to go, because there was no way to go. We just bounced from one corner to the other. But now we take a breath and we come all the way up. We pivot our energy to a pivot point and we bring it all together. We ask our being, see me here now, hold me here now. We're calling our guides and angels, divine presence, stand here with me now. From this position, help me to see this life in a whole and a new way. Help me to feel how whole I am, that I can start to see it all without having little fragments, bits breaking up here and there, dropping my energy into any kind of story. Just stay up in this high vibration and allow and trust and honor you. Thank you. Thank you that we could see it and we could be here now, we could remember this. You remember who you are. Hold this gracious space, my lovelies. And after this, whatever we activate, we know for absolute certain what it is not going to be. With all my heart and all my soul, may that be for you. May we please just do this now. Thank you for holding the space with me, for connecting and holding your hearts open, doing your most profound work and stepping into your most profound life journey. Many blessings. Have a beautiful week. Thank you for you.

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